My comment today is to go easy on yourself, be easy on those around you too… because you have no way of knowing what someone is going through at that moment. No doubt, our shooting darts at that person in thought, word, or action is probably not going to help their already tough day, or week, or year. The next time you find yourself rolling your eyes and wondering what is wrong with them… catch yourself.
A short story to illustrate this – I had been running errands one day, was feeling exhausted, and missing my son Demetrius. He had died years before, but today, as I was pushing forward into my “busy”, I was stopped at a red light. Looking up, I noticed in the car behind me was a young man, he had classic features, a baseball hat on his head and he looked just like my son. I slipped into a delightful fantasy of what I would do if it were really him, what if? I saw myself honking my horn and jumping out of my car to say, “Hey D!! Where are you going? Wanna go grab lunch?” I could not help smiling, imagining how amazing that would be and alongside my smile I felt a tearing up . . .when suddenly I am jolted back to reality!!!
The light had changed and the delightful daydream was honking his horn, shaking his fist and I’m glad I couldn’t hear his expletives in my direction, damn. He had no idea that he had given me a gift of a moment and then as suddenly snatched it back again.
So yes, let us be tender with each other as we are all experiencing something.
And while you are at it, be equally tender with yourselves,
I am certain you’ve earned it.
In Peace, Tamara